>> SOLO Storyteller Series << "The Challenges of Modern Day Dating"

By Ali Parker

For those of you who’ve seen “He’s Just Not That Into You”, you’re probably familiar with the classic scene where Drew Barrymore explains the woes of dating in a technology-ridden society:

“I had this guy leave me a voice mail at work, and so I called him at home, and he emailed me to my BlackBerry, and so I texted to his cell, and now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies! It’s exhausting.”

- Drew Barrymore (He’s Just Not That Into You, 2009).

The scary thing to take away from this is that movie was filmed SIX years ago...SIX!  Since that time, there have been some major changes to technology that seriously affect our dating lives:

(( iPhones, READ RECEIPTS, time stamps and apps galore! ))

Today, as a single woman, there are well over a dozen relevant dating apps to use. Tinder, Happn, Grouper, eHarmony, OK Cupid...and the list goes on and on! Not only do I struggle with the question, “which app is right for me?,” but I also struggle with what to do once I've actually picked one!

Men are not making our lives easy either. You see, contrary to what many men believe, not all women are on these sites just to hook up! Some of us actually believe that we will meet another “sane” person who shares our same beliefs and interests and that it may actually turn into…(wait for it)…A RELATIONSHIP!

And then there’s the one in a million chance you start chatting with a “normal” guy and you decide you are ready to take the conversation off the app and into the real world ... BUT then WHAT?! 

Well, if my history is any indication of what other women are going through, here’s what happens: he texts you. You text back. He texts you...and so on and so forth.

From here you have a couple options:

1)   You initiate making plans

2)  You wait for him to initiate making plans.

3)  YOU CALL HIM (GASP)!

4)  HE CALLS YOU (BIGGER GASP)!

Obviously one of those options is the best (#2) ...but we don’t always get what we want!

There’s a new movie coming out with Amy Schumer, called Trainwreck, and there’s a hilariously relatable scene in the trailer  (click on photo below to view ) playing out the moment when he actually calls you (minute 2:13).

 

It’s pretty sad (and true) that in today’s society if a guy actually calls you our first thought is “it must be a butt dial,” followed by... “he’s sick.” 

But when is it going to be normal to call people again?! I miss the good old days when no one had “phone anxiety” and you could actually tell what mood someone was in by the tone of their voice and not by which emoji they chose to accompany the words, “I’m fine.”

I challenge all of you ladies to step outside your comfort zone…whether it be with a new man or just with friends! Pick up your phone, let your mood shine through and let’s show technology that two can play at this game we call love (and life in general).

I’m really interested to see your comments on what apps you like, how you deal with the app/texting game and any horror or success stories you have! (Funny stories are always welcome)!

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Ali Parker lives in Venice, CA and works as an Account Director at an experiential marketing agency in downtown LA. When she's not traveling the country producing events, she enjoys brunching, perusing her favorite local boutiques and dreaming about her next international vacation!